May 15, 2011


Last night we were at our friends going away party, and I had a discussion with OB before we even left the house. (OB= my husband). I said don't drink to much, WE have to get up at 4 am to go to Atlanta because the cadre was holding the flag at the pre-game events. Anyways, as soon as we got to the farewell BBQ the drinking started, then beer pong. I didn't say anything, I just let him to do his thing because if I did say something than all hell would break out. But of course by the time we got home at 12, he started getting sick. All night he spent in the bathroom throwing up, moaning and being miserable. As rude as it was of me, I ignored it. He put himself in this position and has been in it before. I ended up not going to the Braves game because I didn't get any sleep. So I missed out on something I wanted to do because my irresponsible husband thought only of himself, but still didn't think it was a good idea when he had to wake up possibly still drunk! (End Vent)

The point: We don't have kids, he's in the Army and in all reality. How am I supposed to sit here and compose myself when the person I depend on is acting like a drunk. How would we EVER start a family when he's acting like this unable to control his own actions. It scares me to think that our kids would follow his footsteps and do as he does. He says he would change once we have kids, but I want the change to start now. He's 27, thinking it's still cool to party, play beer pong and act like idiots. Sad thing is, the BBQ we went to, there was no parent actually watching their kids and I couldn't help to think "what is wrong with these people". They all just played beer pong.  As for kids, we've been trying for 4 months now and nothing. I know it's not happening now, but I would like to know I can trust him, and his actions.

It scares me he gets like this often, not nightly but whenever we went up going out with friends. Maybe it's just the friends here? And when we PCS it will all change? But I just get so annoyed, and I KNEW he went over the top last night;  when on the way home he insisted on drunk calling my dad.. I know my parent's are cool but still... one word... PARENTS... In my opinion I find that trashy to do, I find getting that wasted just pathetic, he's not 21 anymore. Why is he trying to act like it? He is in the Army.. He should have some morals and values. Once again I am going to suggest him see someone, because I feel it might be deeper than just "trying to fit in" or whatever it is he is doing. But if it continues, people told me to go to COC, or the Chaplain.

What would you do if your husband got wasted every time he drank with your friends? How would you handle it?


  1. I don't drink very often and have never understood the need to "get drunk" either. I've been married to my OBrien for 10 years and only in the last couple of years has he started to out grow that kind of behavior. When he would do that, I would ignore him and go about my business. I'm was not about to let him ruin my day because he wanted to be childish. I'm not his mom, I can't tell him what to do.

    Oh and it takes guys quite awhile to grow up! I still know some that like to play beer pong. They have families but always make sure to find a babysitter so they can have their fun and make sure the kids are taken care of because it is okay to let loose once in awhile.

  2. And I'm sure that you guys will figure out a way to get through this. Alaska might be all the change you need! There are so many better things to do here than drink!

  3. Praying for you and for God to give you both the wisdom you need to work through this!

  4. I've been there allll tooooo many times!!!


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